How do you ask for a warm intro that actually gets made?

Send your connector a short note they can forward without rewriting. Name the one person you want to meet, say why now, make the ask small, and make it easy for both of them to say no. Most intro requests fail because the connector has to do the work. Do the work for them.

Why do warm intro requests go nowhere?

Three reasons, and you control all of them.

1. The ask is vague. "Know anyone at fintech companies?" makes the connector search their whole network. Most won't.
2. The connector has to write the intro. Now your request is homework, and homework waits.
3. The target never agreed to it. Good connectors check first, and your request has to survive that check.

That third point is older than most of today's sales tools. In 2009, Fred Wilson wrote "The Double Opt-In Introduction" on his blog AVC: when you introduce two people who don't know each other, ask each of them to opt in before you make the intro. Plenty of investors and operators work this way. So your note doesn't go straight to the target. It goes to the connector, who forwards it and asks "want to meet?" If the note can't stand on its own, the answer is silence.

Who should I ask for intros?

People who actually know the target and will vouch for you without it costing them anything.

• Investors. Introductions are part of the job for many of them.
• Advisors and former colleagues. Usually the strongest ties you have.
• Customers. Customer referrals have their own timing. Ask the week they can name a result, as in when to ask customers for referrals.
• Partners. If they already send you deals, treat each one the way partner referrals describes.

Work from your target list outward. Pick the accounts first, then look for the paths in. Mutual connections on LinkedIn show who's connected, not who's close, so ask the connector how well they know the person before you write anything.

What goes in a forwardable intro request?

Two parts: a short note to the connector, and a blurb written so they can forward it as-is.

Subject: Intro to [Name] at [Company]?

Hi [Connector], would you be open to introducing me to [Name]? I wrote a short blurb below you can forward as-is. If you don't know them well enough, no problem at all.

[Your name] runs [Product], which [plain outcome in one line]. [Name]'s team just [specific, recent reason, like opening three SDR roles]. [Your name] is asking for 20 minutes to share how teams in that spot [specific result]. If it's not relevant, no reply needed.

The blurb is in third person on purpose. The connector forwards it without editing, and the target reads it as a note from someone they trust.

What makes the blurb work?

• One named person. Not "someone on the sales team."
• A reason now. The same logic as signal-based outbound: something changed, and that's why you're asking this month.
• A small, specific ask. Twenty minutes on one topic, not "pick your brain."
• An exit for both sides. "No problem at all" for the connector, "no reply needed" for the target.
• No attachments. No deck, no one-pager. Those come after they say yes.

If you don't know who the right person is, ask the connector to help you figure that out first. A buying committee map tells you which seat you need. The connector can tell you who sits in it.

How do I follow up without burning the connector?

Once, after about a week, with an easy out. "Wanted to check if this was a fit to pass along. Totally fine if not."

If they make the intro, reply the same day, thank the connector, and move them to BCC so they aren't stuck in your scheduling thread.

Then close the loop. After the meeting, tell the connector how it went in two lines. That's what gets you the second intro. Connectors keep helping people who make them look good.

How many intros can I ask one person for?

One or two at a time. Make the next ask after the first one turns into a meeting and you've reported back. A list of ten names reads like a request to do your prospecting.

What should I do this week?

1. Pick ten target accounts where you have a real reason to reach out now.
2. For each, find one person you know who knows someone there, and check how well.
3. Write a forwardable blurb for the top three.
4. Send the three requests.
5. Track each one: asked, forwarded, accepted, meeting held, loop closed.

Most intro requests die because the connector has to write them. Write the note they can forward as-is, and you've done the only hard part.

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FAQ

What is a double opt-in introduction?

An intro where the connector checks with both people before connecting them. Fred Wilson described it on his blog AVC in 2009. It protects the connector's credibility and the target's time.

Should I ask my investors for customer intros?

Yes, if they know the person well. Give them one name, a reason, and a forwardable blurb. Investors who know the target can make a much warmer opening than a cold email.

How long should a warm intro request be?

Short. Two lines to the connector and three or four sentences in the blurb. If it doesn't fit on a phone screen, cut it.

What if the connector says they don't know the person well?

Thank them and move on. A weak intro from someone the target barely knows can do less than a well-researched cold note.